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I Hate Giving Blow Jobs, But

It may seem unfair…all the other elements of attraction and compatibility exist between you and your man. It’s just that you think putting a penis in your mouth is…well, gross.

I used to feel the way you do. I used to swear up and down that there was no way THAT thing was going in my mouth. Until one day my boyfriend wasn’t responding the way he usually did during foreplay…it seemed my magic hands couldn’t accomplish the same results they used to. Upon pressing him for the problem, my boyfriend reluctantly admitted to me that all he could think about these days was me giving him a blow job. And it was affecting his ability to keep “Junior” hard.

It seemed to me I had 2 choices. Cut him loose or suck it up (literally). And I loved my boyfriend, and I knew he loved me…but the thing is…his thing wasn’t working!

I gave our predicament some long and hard consideration and I came to some of the following conclusions:

1) I was judging something I had never tried because it appeared “yucky”

2) My boyfriend wasn’t giving me an ultimatum…his penis was. I really believed the problem was physiological…he had convinced himself he wasn’t going to be able to finish the race without a blow job.

3) There were plenty of women out there who were happy to give blow jobs…did I really want to risk losing him to one of them?

4) What if I could somehow avoid the things I considered to be “yucky” about the blow job and still give him a blow job?

5) Maybe I just needed to get to know his penis. The fact was, I had never “formally” introduced myself or gotten to know it that well. Only my hand had experienced direct contact of any kind.

To be perfectly honest, I was too embarrased to discuss the issue with my girlfriends, so I had to settle for Google… and my boyfriend.

Google was fairly helpful in terms of HOW to give a blow job…lots of resources, lots of techniques, lots of advice. Not so much on conquering my fear or disgust of giving blow jobs.

The boyfriend was falling over his penis to be helpful. I’m not sure he believed I would ever play for the blow-job team, but he was sure going to do his utmost to facilitate the transition!

In thinking about my fear of the penis, I realized that it mostly came from knowing that his penis, while giving him great pleasure, was also the place from which he peed. And the last thing I wanted in my mouth was pee.

When I talked to my boyfriend about this, he explained that after he urinates he basically squeezes his shaft in order to extract anything that might remain inside. He sincerely doubted I would end up with pee in my mouth, but if it made me feel better, he intended to shower beforehand and he promised not to pee for at least a few hours beforehand either! Bridge #1 crossed!

I also had some disgust over the idea of him cumming in my mouth. I use a water filter for cryin out loud…the last thing I wanted were little sperm swimming around in my mouth! Although my boyfriend definitely seemed to prefer exploding in my mouth, we were able to negotiate 2 other locations…his stomach, and – if I was comfortable enough in the moment – my breasts.

Well, my boyfriend wasn’t wasting any time, and if I couldn’t put it off forever I was going to get it over and done with as quickly as possible! That night, after work, after dinner, and after our favorite TV show, my boyfriend went to take a shower. I sat on the bed pretending I had no idea what was coming next.

My boyfriend could barely contain his excitement. In fact, when he walked into the bedroom naked from the shower, it seemed his penis arrived before he did. He was completely erect just at the thought of me going down on him! I couldn’t believe it!

He lay down on the bed and, as I am prone to do in these sorts of do-or-die moments, I took a deep breath, thought to myself “sometimes you just gotta say “what the ****”, and I headed South.

Something happened to me in the next 20 minutes that’s hard to explain. At first I just kind of looked at my boyfriend’s penis for a while, from different angles, and even traced my fingers along the head, the shaft, and his balls. My boyfriend was clearly enjoying the detailed attention…I could hear his breathing get heavier.

I leaned in and gave the side of his shaft a tiny little lick. My boyfriend let out a gasp and my eyes widened with surprise. I leaned in again and this time I licked the other side of his shaft. Another gasp escaped from my boyfriend’s mouth. I decided to lick the entire area of his shaft to get the whole thing wet…it really seemed like the least objectionable part of his penis!

At this point my boyfriend was moaning and his hips were also grinding into the bed. I looked over at him and then back to his penis. Suddenly, I was taken over by a feeling of empowerment. I was doing this to my boyfriend – ME! – I was making him moan and groan and grind. Not that I hadn’t given him pleasure before this…but somehow this was different…it was more intense, more exciting.

His entire penis was wet so my mouth was able to glide over it very easily. Without even thinking I took my hand and started stroking him with it. Occasionally I would lean in close and give him a little lick, but in the end my boyfriend came through my old standby, the handjob.

It didn’t matter…I think I would have gone further than his shaft…I may have even put his entire penis in my mouth if he hadn’t cum so quickly from the handjob. What mattered was that I had faced my fears head on (no pun intended) and had taken the first steps toward conquering them. And just the effort alone had excited my boyfriend enough to put him over the edge.

After that first experience I became somewhat obsessed with giving my boyfriend a real blowjob. I wanted that feeling of power again…I wanted to see what else I could do to blow him away. I went from being Ms. I Hate Giving Blow Jobs to the Queen of Blow Jobs! In fact, once I got going I found that I had a talent for it. A set of great skills that have been validated subsequently by the other men I’ve had relationships with.

You can conquer your fear and disgust of giving blow jobs…if it’s important to you. And if it’s important to your man (and please believe that it is), I’m sure he’ll do everything he can to make the experience as pleasant as possible for you. Talk to him about it…communication is always key!

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